Communication is not… a debate, about blame, or about who is right or wrong. However, this is what it often turns into when couples try to communicate. And it can be disheartening. Remember, communication is an exchange. An exchange of information, ideas, thoughts, and feelings. It is valuing your partner and what they are saying, thinking, and feeling. If it is coming from your partner, it is worth considering! There is probably some truth in there somewhere! Give your partner eye contact and simply listen. This will help your partner feel loved and valued.